Veterans Day: We Will Remember

 

"Thank you to all the Veterans and Soliders that continue to risk their lives for my freedom, may God forever bless you and your family."

"Thank you to all the Veterans and Soliders that continue to risk their lives for my freedom, may God forever bless you and your family."

 

 

Originally posted on NJ.com by Star-Ledger Editorial Board

Veterans Day is about remembering — remembering those who went to war for us, especially those who didn’t come back. But in the hurly-burly of life today, we too often forget to remember.

Americans of a certain age can still recall the parades and pageantry, the red poppies and grand speeches that marked Veterans Day (earlier Armistice Day) in the 1930s, ‘40s, ‘50s and into the 1960s. But that was a different era.

The two world wars they celebrated were noble wars. The sons those Gold Star mothers gave to their country died for lofty ideals that rallied the entire nation — freedom, liberty and an end to barbarous dictatorships. There was no talk of an “exit strategy” in those years. Every family had someone in service.

That’s all gone. The wars we’ve fought for almost 60 years now have been political wars, beginning with Korea, a forgotten conflict denied even the label of “war.” It was merely a “police action,” but also an inferno that consumed 35,000 American lives in three years.

The men didn’t cheer and the boys didn’t shout and the ladies and girls didn’t all turn out when Johnny came marching home from Korea. To be honest, there was little to celebrate then — or later in Vietnam or Bosnia or in our endless political wars in the Middle East. All the grand rhetoric and patriotic prose of the old days would ring hollow today.

But perhaps the worst part of what’s happened to Veterans Day is the gap that has grown up in 21st century America between our military — some say the best we ever fielded, certainly the best trained and equipped — and the American people.

The reason is plain enough. This isn’t a military of all the people drawn by lot in a national draft as in the two world wars, Korea or Vietnam, with almost everyone subject to call. It’s a volunteer force in which only a tiny segment of the population serves. And their fighting and dying is for too many of us more an abstraction than a flesh-and-blood reality.

Go to a Veterans Day parade or speech today? We’d rather go shopping.

The era of the gala parades and fine Veterans Day oratory may be over, but still, even a modest remembrance would be nice. The simple British Remembrance Day salute might serve as an example. After lights are dimmed and a period of silence observed, this verse from “For The Fallen,” by Laurence Binyon, least known of Britain’s World War I poets, is read every year:

“They shall grow not old as we that are left grow old/Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn/At the going down of the sun and in the morning/we will remember them.”

We should do no less.

A Rabbi’s Response To The DC Sniper’s Execution

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Orignially posted by Rabbi Mark S. Glickman in The Seattle Times

“Execution serves justice, but what about our humanity?”

The trial lasted for more than two weeks; my testimony took all of three minutes. The defendant was John Allen Muhammad, one of the notorious Washington, D.C., snipers, convicted of murdering 10 people in fall 2002.

Several months before the murders, the snipers lived in Tacoma, where I was the rabbi at a synagogue. During a Saturday service in the synagogue’s small chapel, I opened the ark — the alcove holding our Torah scroll — and noticed dust scattered all over. Then, I saw a small hole high in the wall. Somebody had fired a gun into our building. A bullet had passed through three walls and two rooms before going into the ark.

Police took the bullet but had no leads.

Meanwhile, mysterious snipers were terrorizing Washington, D.C. One day after they’d been captured, I got a phone call saying the bullet fired into the temple was from one of their guns.

There was a news conference that evening, and the police chief asked me to attend. He announced the snipers were also suspects in the murder of a Tacoma woman named Keenya Cook — an innocent 21-year-old, shot point-blank in the face after answering a knock at her door. Facing a wall of reporters and a bouquet of microphones, I remember feeling almost guilty for being there. Keenya Cook was murdered; we just had holes in our walls. And for some reason, the incident at the temple was the one that they were calling a hate crime.

Months later, when John Muhammad’s trial was near its end, my phone rang. The prosecutors were going to subpoena me so I could testify about the bullet hole in the ark. The crime at my synagogue, they felt, would help persuade the judge and jury to order Muhammad executed. Not only did he murder 10 people, they reasoned, he hated Jews, too.

I flew east, waited two days, testified, came home.

That was six years ago. Tuesday night, John Allen Muhammad was finally executed. I’ve always been opposed to capital punishment, and I remain so. Yes, Jewish scripture lists many crimes punishable by death, but the rabbis who later interpreted those passages couldn’t fathom that this is what God would have wanted. So they made it even more difficult to execute a person under Jewish law than it is under U.S. law. One sage suggested that a rabbinic court that executes one criminal every 70 years is a bloody court. Jewish law accepts capital punishment in principle, but rejects it in practice.

And yet, opposed as I am to capital punishment, I did play a role — albeit a tiny one — in helping secure the death penalty for John Allen Muhammad. How does that make me feel? I don’t feel guilty — after all, I was legally required to testify, and all I did was tell the truth. And I certainly don’t feel any love or compassion for John Muhammad. Maybe I should, but I don’t.

As I think about this weird, horrible chain of events, what I feel most, I think, is an overwhelming sense of sadness. I feel sad for the snipers’ victims, their lives so suddenly and horribly cut short. I feel sad for their families and loved ones, for I know that their wounds may never heal. And I feel sad for our society, for we have decided that the death of yet another person is somehow an appropriate response to the tragic deaths of his victims.

During a break after the jury announced its verdict, I found myself chatting with the lead prosecutor outside the courtroom. I asked him, “When do attorneys celebrate in cases like this — after the verdict? After the sentencing? When the sentence is imposed?

“Rabbi,” he said, “in cases like this, you never celebrate — too many people have died. Instead, you just do your job, you hope justice is served, and you move on with your life.”

With the execution of John Allen Muhammad, justice may very well have been served. But what I wonder — what I fear — is whether the price that we have paid for that justice is our very humanity.

Gospel Superfest 2010

 

It’s Official!
Allstate Gospel Superfest TV Set to go Live!

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On The Campus of Xavier University!

Get ready as America’s Supershow records in Ohio Saturday, January 9, 2010.

Join Executive Producers and show founders Bobby & Renita Cartwright for this historic TV taping! The biggest names in Hollywood, film, TV and Gospel Music’s best will convene on the Queen City this January 2010, and you MUST be in the house!  

“This will be the biggest Gospel Superfest TV taping ever!
And we expect a move of God and a high time in the spirit, so this is our personal invite for YOU to join us in Cincinnati!”
Gospel Superfest 11, will feature some of America’s brightest stars in the biz, including J.Moss, Ricky Dillard and New G, Vickie Winans, Shirley Murdock, Karen Clark Sheard, Ki Ki Sheard, The Williams Brothers, Keith Wonderboy Johnson, Hezekiah Walker & LFC, Jonathan Nelson, and a host of other top gospel and R&B artists…..

Scheduled to host are VIVICA A. FOX, and FLEX ALEXANDER.Recorded live for national television for ten consecutive years, Gospel Superfest has become one of the nation’s leaders in gospel music entertainment television and production…. Sponsored in the past by Procter & Gamble, Allstate Insurance, GM, Johnson & Johnson, SC Johnson, Wal-Mart and several top corporations, Gospel Superfest Television has carved out a significant niche in the TV industry. As the most widely distributed TV show in the history of gospel television, over 300 million viewers have opportunity to view Gospel Superfest via its domestic syndication affiliates, The Word Network and the Trinity Broadcasting Network each year.

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Pastor Accused Of Using God To Get Sexual Favors

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Originally posted on EURweb.com

The senior pastor of First African Methodist Episcopal Church (FAME) in Los Angeles is facing a civil lawsuit and allegations that he coerced a junior pastor into a sexual relationship with him. Rev. Brenda Lamothe said she was fired from her position earlier this year after she refused to continue with Dr. John J. Hunter’s sexual demands. And she held a news conference Tuesday to talk about it.

According to reports, Lamonthe filed the lawsuit last week against Hunter. In the suite, Lamothe accused Hunter of coercing her into inappropriate sexual relations. She said Hunter convinced her it was “God’s will” that she comply with demands for sex at the pastor’s church office and in hotels in Southern California, Virginia and North Carolina.

The news conference was held at Lamonthe’s attorney’s office in Encino.

Founder Of Feed The Children Fired!

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Originally posted on One News Now by Allie Martin

The founder of Feed the Children has been fired by the ministry’s board of directors.

The nonprofit ministry is one that delivers food, medical care, clothing, and other essentials to those who are in need due to famine, war, poverty, or natural disasters. It is best known for its TV ad campaigns featuring hungry children and the organization’s founder, Larry Jones.
 
Last week, Jones was terminated by the affiliation’s board of directors. According to The Christian Post, the 30-year-old ministry has been facing a power struggle between Jones and the charity’s board of directors since last year when Jones removed several board members, including his daughter. Also, the former organization president admits to having installed microphones in the offices of three directors this spring before they were allowed to resume their positions by the orders of a judge.
 
Jones believes he was fired because he convinced a judge to temporarily block the directors from using the charity’s money to pay for legal fees.
 
The founder says he plans to file a lawsuit in an effort to get his job back.

Pittsburg Church In Legal Battle Over Finances

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As posted on MercuryNews.com and originally posted by The Associated Press

Members of a Pittsburg church are suing their pastor and his appointed leaders, saying they improperly spent church money and refused to follow bylaws.

The lawsuit by 31 longtime members of Solomon Temple Missionary Baptist Church seeks about $200,000 in damages from the Rev. Victor Brice and other leaders.

According to the lawsuit, Brice made multiple expenditures since becoming pastor in 2008 without approval from the church’s governing body and may have used $15,000 for personal expenses.

The lawsuit, filed Oct. 26 in Contra Costa County Superior Court, also seeks to remove Brice from his position.

Brice denies the allegations, calling them “slanderous and frivolous” and saying they stem from members who are simply resistant to a new pastor. He says he has no access to the church’s bank accounts.

Veteran’s & Active Duty Military Eat Free On Veteran’s Day!

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Just show proof with your military i.d. and the meal is on Outback.  For more information, visit: http://www.outback.com/companyinfo/veteransday2009.aspx

 

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The Secret Mind-blowing Actual Purpose of Marriage

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Originally posted on Christianity Today by Mark E. Smith

I was invited recently to a wedding. My handsome young nephew, the groom, had a smile that could have lit up the universe as his gorgeous blond bride made her way down the aisle to join him in the bonds of matrimony. He was marrying the woman of his dreams, and it was all good. The problem was, like all young kids on their glorious wedding days, my man didn’t really know who he was marrying. If he did, he would have quietly slipped out the back of the church before he uttered those fateful words, “I do.”

I don’t know his beautiful new bride and my comments are in no way a slight on her character. I’m sure she’s a fine young woman who loves her new husband with a pure and sincere heart. But I know who she is: She represents the worst personal characteristics of my nephew’s parents miraculously and cleverly disguised in an appealing and lovely package.

I sat with the rest of the family and friends and watched as a lethal buzz saw headed down the aisle for a meeting with my handsome nephew, and he could not have been more cluelessly happy to embrace it. He had no fear or awareness of the danger he was in.

My friends, this is what marriage is—for all of us.

Marriage, by its very essence, is pain! Not a very romantic notion, I know. The truth is that we all have experienced some childhood wounding. This world of ours is an extremely flawed place and we all get our share of emotional bumps and bruises when we are tiny, unprotected, and vulnerable. Thankfully, complex, hurting, little human beings then have fortresses of powerful psychological defenses that rise up to provide integrity, protection, and safety. We learn to rationalize, cope, act out, devalue, intellectualize, idealize, deny, undo, disassociate, minimize, displace, project, repress, regress, and otherwise numb all the bad stuff out.

The purpose of our psychological defenses? To get us out of childhood in one functioning piece with the misguided impression that we’re all grown up now and we’re free to live our lives without any significant impact from Dad, Mom, and the rest of that bunch.

I wish that were true. 

The truth is that our particular family dysfunction conspires to form and twist us into who we uniquely are—both good and bad. It even determines who you’re attracted to. Whatever wounding you repress from childhood develops and morphs into your love life type.

Part of that is that God desires for each of us to heal our deepest emotional wounds. So to do that, we’re pretty much stuck liking who we like. We’re intensely attracted only to lovers who are hidden versions of Dad’s and Mom’s worst and most hurtful traits. We all have 100 percent unfailing radar systems that draw us to the people who are so wrong for us that they’re right for us. It’s nature’s way. It’s the true meaning of love. It’s why the bad boys get the hot girls. 

I was being facetious when I said that my nephew would slip out the back of the church if he knew the true meaning of the love that drew him to his bride. Like the rest of us, once he got a dose of the magic and energy of genuine early love, nothing could keep him away from his special girl. Love and marriage are worth the pain and the tremendous risks. Marriage is all about opportunities for healing, growth, depth, insight, forgiveness, maturity, and recovery.

Sadly, if you don’t understand that the pain of love and marriage is all about you and your childhood and not about your beloved, then you’ll probably miss out on the incredible opportunities for growth, lessons, and healing that love offers. No matter how your spouse hurts you, it’s ultimately about you and it’s good. There never has been nor there ever be a victim in love and marriage. 

My prayer for my nephew and his bride is a life-long fulfilling relationship that enriches everyone their lives touch. There will be ruthlessly tough times though. It’s normal to have a really dysfunctional family and to ultimately have extremely serious marital problems. It’s all about embracing the work, embracing the pain, and finding out what’s laying deep in your gut when you embrace the cutting of the buzz saw.

The hundreds of couples I’ve worked with over counselor over the past 22 years who have gotten this concept have proactively healed, thrived, and blossomed into healthier and happier people. The vast majority of marriages were not only salvaged, they were rebuilt from the ground up into something truly solid and wonderfully special. But for the couples I worked with who didn’t get the mind blowing secret purpose of marriage—their divorce rates were astronomical. What’s worse, they left their marriages bitter, clueless, jaded, and full of anger to take out on the next hidden version of their unresolved issues that their unerring radars drew into their lives.

This isn’t a small truth. It isn’t psychobabble. It isn’t something that only applies to some people. This is about you. It applies to you if you’re headed to the altar for the first time as a 24 year old; it applies to you if you’re in your early 40s and are desperately lonely and unhappy in your marriage; it applies to you if you’re still looking for the good stuff in love in your 60s. It’s God’s way of healing us.

Marriage and relationships truly are all good. I encourage squeezing every ounce of insight, healing, and growth out of the pain and difficulties that the gift of your particular dysfunctional relationship graces you with.

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